On Turning Three
Abby turns three today. While I realize this sort of post is way overdone on most “mommy blogs,” I’m writing this one just for her. I don’t really make babybooks, so this will have to do.
To My Sweet Abbygirl,
As a little girl, I used to dream about what my life would be like when I grew up. I dreamed about meeting Prince Charming and living happily ever after. Just like your beloved Cinderella. And as you’ll learn when you are older, sometimes things don’t go exactly as planned.
This last year was hard. But as I worked to make a new life for us, you faced change with an exuberance that kept me on my toes. You grew up a lot this year. You learned to speak clearly. You learned to imagine and play dress up. You learned to form a dissenting opinion. You learned to dance. You learned to take care of your sister and to hug her gently. You learned ALL the words to “Somewhere Over the Rainbow” and your ABCs. You learned to sleep in a big girl bed. You learned that riding in an ambulance can be fun—if they turn on the flashing lights and you get to sit on mommy’s lap.
I have learned a lot from you too, Abby. When I was worried about custody and court proceedings, you showed me that there wasn’t anything a trip to the park couldn’t fix. You taught me how much joy can come from a simple nighttime bath, and Little Golden Books in bed. You taught me that Sleeping Beauty isn’t perfect. She doesn’t even have a job like mommy at the hop-sit-uhl, you so poignantly observed one evening. You taught me to be brave—not even looking back my way as you were taken into surgery. You taught me to be thankful for everything, no matter how small. You often reminded me to say thank you for sissy’s doggy and ice skating during our bedtime prayers.
But the best part of my fairy tale, Abbygirl, is that I did find true love—in two adorable, pint-sized packages. It’s a pure, beautiful and perfect love. You and Ellie changed my life and my heart.
And the real beauty of it all is that we do get to live happily ever after, together. Happy third birthday, my little princess.
xoxo,
Mommy




Such a privilege to share vicariously in this past year’s struggles for you, made all the more precious by a little 3-year-old girl who faced uncertain surgery bravely. Thank you for your inspiring and honest writings.
As you know first-hand, Marti, kids can be an incredible source of strength and not even know it:)
tearing up. So beautiful.
Thanks, Marcy. I cried when I wrote it. And I’m not really a crier. And I love the new headshot by the way, love love love…
Love this. I’m tearing up too. Glad to hear you and your adorable girls are doing well. Thank you for sharing a bit of your journey with us.
Such a wonderful letter . . . I’m so glad that you have learned these really important lessons from both of your girls (our girls!) . . . they teach us so much more than we do them sometimes! Love them (and you) muchly!
OK, that completely got me. Sniff, sniff, sniff
Happy Birthday Abby!
This is beautiful Pam.
Hugs to Abby-girl on her birthday! This is a beautiful letter. And don’t they say the best things during bedtime prayers? Its one of my favorite surprise moments at the end of the day.
This is a keeper! Print it out and post it everywhere! Save it for those rainy days when you’re feeling down and those days when Abby turns 15 and things are not so smooth! Love you Pam…Happy Birthday Abby.
So beautiful – and better than a baby book. Hugs to you and both your little girls – so glad that you can now see the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow and its living happily ever after, together – just you and your babies!
What a wonderful post Pam; thank you for sharing your life with the rest of us! You are a wonderful mom, friend, daughter, and woman!
I am totally crying. I love you, Pammie! You are a rock star and your girls are amazing.
Absolutely gorgeously written. Make sure to look at this on her future birthdays as well.