10/16/2014 4:44 am
Today is a special day for me. It is my one-year RUNiversary!
Twelve months ago, I was not a runner, not even close! In fact, I hated thinking about running. I loved to sprint, fast, but for 100, 200 yards, maybe. I loved to run around the bases in a softball game or do sprints for a warm-up. Anything beyond that, was just not for me.
One year ago, today, I completed my first “official” run, by joining an 8-week run club. That night, I ran 1 mile around the track. Little did I know, that mile, would be the start to an amazing, positive, change in my life.
I never thought I would ever complete a half marathon. I had no endurance and honestly, no desire to even try. I had myself convinced, that I was a sprinter, therefore, I could not run long distance, but last October, my mentality changed.
I set a New Year’s resolution, for 2013, that I was going to be Fit for 30. It was the year, I turned the big 3-0, and I worked hard, to get in the best shape of my life. I felt that I completed my goal when my 30th birthday arrived last October, but something was still missing. I got in shape, but I still couldn’t run. I was finally ready to stop saying, “I can’t,” and start believing in myself.
It was never easy. I made mistakes. I learned from them. I sustained injuries. I set my alarm for 5 a.m. runs. I had runs that were good and runs that brought me to tears. Most importantly, no matter what, I never quit.
I’ve learned a lot of things about myself since I started running (13.1 Milestone: Lessons Learned), but I think one of the most important ones is to have a positive attitude, not just in running, but in life. I had convinced myself that I was not good enough to run long distance and that I would never have the endurance to run a half marathon. The reality was, I just never had the desire or the patience to prove myself wrong.
I learned how powerful your mind really is and how much control your mind and your attitude have over your body. If I hit the road with a negative attitude, my run is horrible, every time.
I learned that 90% of your race, is your mental state that day. Of course, training is important, and your body needs to be properly trained, fueled, and hydrated to go the distance, but it’s just as important to train your mind, along with your body. When your body runs out of steam, your mind needs to tell your legs to keep moving.
If you told me one year ago, I would run a half marathon, I would have laughed out loud and told you, you were crazy, because I can’t run.
In the past 12 months, I have completed 2 5K’s, 4 10K’s, 1 sprint triathlon, and 2 half marathons, and I will be running my 3rd half marathon on October 26th.
11/9/13 – Big A 5K 24:56 / 8:02
2/9/14 – iTRTathlon 5K 24:57 / 8:03
11/28/13 – Plymouth Rock N Run 10K – 54:49 / 8:50
12/14/13 – Troutman Sanders Santa Run 10K – 53:54 / 8:42
3/2/14 – Coaster Run 10K – 49:23 / 7:58
3/30/14 – PCRF Reaching For the Cure 10K 49:20 / 7:58
2/22/14 – Race on the Base – 5K 24:40 / 7:57, Bike 13.1 mi 48:17, Swim 5:41
5/26/14 – Laguna Hills Memorial Day Half Marathon – 2:03:23 / 9:25
8/31/14 – Disneyland Half Marathon – 1:56:37 / 8:54
It is almost overwhelming to look back at the last year and see, not just the accomplishments, but to see how much running has changed me as a person. I really believe it has given me a new outlook on life.
Running was something that once scared me, because I was so intimidated by it, but now running is a part of who I am.
I started my own Facebook page, Mission TwinPossible: The Twin Mama’s Journey, and I have learned that anything is possible with the right attitude, hard work, and dedication.
10/15/2014 2:10 pm
I’m kind of embarrassed to admit that six weeks have passed and I have not written anything about the Disneyland Half Marathon!
It was kind of a big deal, because, one, it was on my bucket list, two it was a New Year’s resolution, and three, I PR’d, taking 7 minutes off my first half marathon time.
I woke up bright and early on the morning of the big race. Flat Hollie was laid out, and ready to go!
I got to the parking garage around 4:15 a.m. and was in my corral (super early), anxiously awaiting the 5:30 a.m. start! My adrenaline was pumping and I could feel the Disney magic all around me! So many runners were dressed in their Disney best and it was fun to see everyone’s race costumes.
The gun went off and my corral was headed out! There truly is something magical about running through the Happiest Place on Earth! It would’ve been even better if you could run through the park for the entire 13 miles, but unfortunately, the park is not that big. I loved running through Disney’s California Adventure and Disneyland Park, even if it was only for a couple miles. There were multiple photo opportunities, inside the park, for those who wanted to snap some selfies, or get a picture with their favorite Disney character. I just kept on running.
Even though there were 11 miles outside of the parks, the entertainment never failed. There were live bands, cheerleaders, spectators, singers, and even a classic car show along the route. We ran around the Honda Center, and, perhaps my favorite part of the race, was running around the field, at Angels Stadium, with cheering spectators inside!
I started to hit a wall at mile 12, which is where my pace really took a hit. I started to feel dizzy and light-headed, and started running with my head down, possibly even with my eyes closed, for a few feet here and there. The spectators, and even the runners, offered amazing words of encouragement during that final mile, to keep my body moving forward to finish the race.
The overwhelming feeling of joy I felt after crossing the finish line, is almost indescribable. It is the runner’s high. The reason, runners will sign up for another race (also for the bling).
One year ago, 13.1 miles seemed impossible and unreachable, but on August 31, I completed my second half marathon in three months. It didn’t even seem real at that point.
Another amazing feeling after the race, is finding the person you love, who’s been cheering you on, waiting for you with open arms, and even accepts your sweaty hug when you re-unite!
I was so happy to see my husband after my run. I have been so incredibly blessed to have such an amazing support person by my side, not just for this race, but also for every early morning training run, (and recovery-on-the-couch days) that got me to that day!
Side note: Unfortunately, unless your spectators pay extra money to be part of the ChEAR Squad, your family will not be able to see you cross the finish line, so make sure you have an agreed-upon meeting place, after the race.
If you want to participate the 2015 Disneyland Half Marathon Weekend (Sept 4-6), there are a couple things you should know. Registration sells out fast! You can sign up at Run Disney, to receive an email reminder of the day, registration opens. Registration for the 2015 Disneyland Half Marathon Weekend, opens on February 10, 2015.
It’s not the cheapest race out there. The half marathon, alone, was $195. A lot of people ask me, if it was worth the cost? I can’t say I would spend that much money on a race again (insert husband’s happy dance here), but it was an amazing experience, a very organized race, and of course big bling is always a plus! The biggest downside for me (aside from the expense) was that my husband was not able to see me cross the finish line, but I guess when you have that many runners, it would be hard for everyone to flock to one spot. Overall, the race was a lot of fun! Thank you Run Disney!
08/28/2014 8:06 pm
A big part of me has wanted to take the girls bowling. The other part of me thought I was crazy, and so did my husband. However, I found the perfect opportunity to give the sport a chance, in an environment that welcomed my two, high-energy, preschoolers.
My husband is on vacation this week, and so are the girls, so I figured with man-to-man coverage, we would head to an alley. I started searching for bowling alleys nearby, and I stumbled across Saddleback Lanes in Mission Viejo. As I clicked on their website, one banner quickly caught my eye:
Wait. A bowling league, that welcomes three-year olds, and is twin friendly? This is phenomenal. I immediately called Saddleback Lanes to find out more information!
The Lil’ Strikers Bumper League is a 10 week league, but you can join anytime. The league meets on Mondays at 4 p.m. and the cost is $8 per person, which includes shoe rentals and two games of bowling! Since you are technically in a league, you also receive discounts when you return to the alley throughout the week. At the end of the league, the kids enjoy a pizza party and receive a trophy! We went on Monday, Aug 25, which was week 9 of the current league. The next league is expected to start in mid-September.
Every team in the league has 3 bowlers. Your team consists of 1 parent and 1 child or 1 parent and 2 children. If you are only bowling with one child, then you will have a ghost bowler on your team. When the child bowls, the bumpers automatically come out. When the parent bowls, the bumpers go away. Bowling ramps are provided for the little ones, who can’t throw the ball down the alley yet and the kids bowl with six pound bowling balls.
We chose to make a 3-person team. My husband bowled with the girls and I was the safety monitor to make sure they were sitting down when everyone else was bowling, not getting over excited and running into the wrong lane after they knocked their pins down, and not pressing all of the buttons on the computers.
The only problem we encountered was when Chelsea bowled a strike. She was on the verge of tears because she did not understand why she did not get to throw her second ball. Catastrophe.
By the end of our second game, Katelyn wanted to hurl her balls down the alley like daddy, so it was probably a great time to go.
For their first time bowling, the girls did great! Kate bowled a 74 and 82 and Chelsea bowled a 71 and 88. (Oh, and Daddy bowled a 225 in his second game. There. Now, it’s on record.)
Everyone had a blast and I am so glad we found this opportunity to introduce bowling to the girls. I have a feeling we will be laying some more pins down in the near future!
For more information on the Lil Strikers Bumper Bowling League, contact:
25402 Marguerite Parkway
Mission Viejo, CA 92692
08/18/2014 10:07 am
I will be the first to admit, cooking is not my forte, and we often eat the same meals, a little too often, but I do enjoy finding the time (rarity) to cook something new! I was excited when I was challenged to create a gourmet burger.
I decided to create a Bacon Burger with Caramelized Onions and Gorgonzola!
First, to get some ingredients! Shopping with twin three-year olds is not always the easiest task, so I was happy to find that Winder Farms delivered almost everything I needed, straight to my front door, first thing in the morning!
Winder Farms is known as the ‘farmers market on wheels,” and has been delivering fresh products to families since 1880! This service is great for moms who value providing their families with healthy options, but don’t necessarily have time to make a trip to the local farmers market or specialty grocery stores.
Winder Farms delivers over 300 fresh products, straight from the farm, to families in Utah, Nevada, and California! Milk is delivered within 48 hours, baked goods are baked fresh daily, and the produce is always freshly picked. Everything they deliver also comes with a freshness and 100% satisfaction guarantee! To top it off, not having to drag the kids through the grocery store, is one less thing to stress about.
To prepare my gourmet burgers, I had my ground beef, applewood smoked bacon, yellow onions, organic baby spinach, and gluten-free hamburger buns, delivered directly to my doorstep!
Bacon Burger with Caramelized Onions and Gorgonzola
- Extra-Virgin Olive Oil
- 8 slices of Applewood Smoked Bacon, chopped
- Large Yellow Onion (thinly sliced)
- Splash of White Wine
- 1 lb ground beef
- 4 Hamburger Buns, toasted
- 2 oz Crumbled Gorgonzola Cheese
- Baby Spinach
- Heat large skillet over medium-high heat. Drizzle extra-virgin olive oil and cook bacon. Transfer bacon to a plate and let cool.
- Leave bacon drippings in pan and add onions. Reduce heat to medium-low and cook about 30 minutes, stirring occasionally. When the onions have finished cooking, deglaze the pan, by adding a splash of white wine. Transfer onions to a bowl and cover to keep them warm.
- While the onions are cooking, combine beef and cooled, chopped bacon. Form them into four separate patties. Coat slightly, with extra-virgin olive oil.
- Cook burgers on skillet on medium-high for about 4 minutes per side for medium-rare.
- Place burger on toasted buns and top with caramelized onions, gorgonzola crumbles, and baby spinach.
Now, grab a tasty beverage. Sit down. Enjoy your creation!
Disclaimer: I received complimentary grocery delivery service from Winder Farms for this contest.
07/24/2014 7:56 am
Every mom knows it’s coming, but they can only hope it doesn’t happen too soon…the END of naps. My girls just turned 3, and we have been struggling with nap times for the last 7 months. I was ready to face the fact that naps were a thing of the past.
Having no naps was definitely starting to weigh on me and my husband. Bedtime was still a mess and the lack of sleep was turning my cute girls, into total grumps, from early afternoon, all the way through bedtime. If it was a miraculous day, and they did have a nap, bedtime was much later, much harder, and much more exasperating. It was a game that had a no-win outcome.
When my day ends in utter frustration, it snowballs into a frustrating evening for my husband too. He comes home from a long day, only to see the grumpy, overtired, meltdowns. I finally realized, we must be missing something. Kids need sleep.
If only our kids came with a sleep manual, right? Well, I may have just found one. Last Wednesday, I attended the general meeting for my Saddleback Mothers of Multiples Club. The guest speaker was Michelle Donaghy, a pediatric sleep coach.
With a combination of things I learned in the meeting from the speaker, ideas from other moms, and some ideas of my own, I think I am finally starting to understand why naps were not working for us in the past. It’s been one week since, my light bulb was dusted off and turned on, and we can celebrate a victory; the girls have napped 6 of the past 7 days.
When it comes to sleep, the key hormones to remember are melatonin and cortisol. The levels of these hormones in your body change throughout the day, which is why it is easier to fall asleep at certain times. Melatonin, increases in the absence of light, and gets us ready to drift off to sleep. Cortisone is a hormone that keeps us awake and alert.
We’ve all said, our kids got their “second wind,” but did you ever wonder why that happens?
Melatonin, a hormone produced naturally in your brain, that tells your body to go to sleep, plays a role in the regulation of our body’s natural clock or circadian rhythms. Healthy adults and children get a hormone of melatonin about 30 minutes before they get sleepy.
Research showed that kids who were put to bed about 30 minutes after their melatonin surge, fell asleep faster. Kids whose bedtimes were not in sync with their melatonin surge had bedtime resistance. Furthermore, our bodies like to compensate, so if we miss the “sleepy window,” our body knows we need more energy, and gives us a shot of cortisol, or the “second wind” as we mommy’s call it! Once this cortisol kicks in, your task of getting your child to sleep, just became a thousand times harder.
Sleep is important, for everyone, so it’s important to understand your child’s window of wakefulness, or the length of time you can expect your child to stay awake without having a meltdown. So, approximately, when does this melatonin kick in?
For a 3-year old, the magic number seems to be 6. So, if your child wakes up at 7 a.m., then their nap should be six hours later, at 1 p.m. The other day my daughters woke up at 6:30 a.m. and we went in their room just after noon, to dim the lights, begin quiet time, read books, and amazingly, they were asleep at 12:30 p.m.
The sleep schedule is not perfect and I can not say it’s easy, but there is improvement. Let me address some of the sleep problems and solutions we have encountered.
Problem: With no naps, my daughters were not getting enough sleep during the day, resulting in overtired, grumpy, irritable children.
Solution: A 3-5 year old needs about 12 hours of sleep. If they sleep 11 hours at night, a 1 hour nap during the day would be ideal! When they take a nap, they usually wake up refreshed and happy!
Problem: Naps were not working. I finally gave up.
Solution: Remember your child’s magic numbers! For a 3-5 year old, the awake window is 6 hours, so begin your nap routine at about 5.5 hours. The next magic number is 4-5 (for my kids it’s about 5). Once they wake up from nap, they have 4-5 more awake hours before bedtime. If your child wakes up from nap at 3 p.m., then bedtime should be between 7-8 p.m.
Problem: My kids were waking up way too early.
Solution: According to the sleep coach, at this age, your child should not be awake in the morning before 6 a.m. and should not go to bed at night, past 8 p.m. To keep my girls in bed in the morning, we use the Onaroo OK to Wake! Alarm Clock, or “Buggy,” as we call him. He turns green at 6:45 a.m. which tells the girls that it is okay to get out of bed.
Problem: Our house is loud. You can hear every noise that is made upstairs, when you are in their bedroom.
Solution: Thankfully, the girls have shared a room for long enough, that they have had to endure sleeping through another screaming kid. We also keep a fan in their room, turned on high, for background noise. The fan is turned on during quiet time, at nap and bed time, and stays on until they wake up.
Problem: Getting the girls to nap or even go to bed between 7 and 8 pm in the summer, when the sun is still up, is near impossible.
Solution: Keep the room dark. Your body releases melatonin (sleepy hormone) and that hormone increases in the absence of light. We use black out curtains to keep the room nice and dark and begin reading in the room 20 minutes before naps or bed time.
Problem: When they did nap, bedtime was awful!
Solution: Never wake a sleeping baby, no longer applies here. If my kids slept 11 hours last night, then I am not going to let them sleep more than 1 hour for nap time. Also, I won’t let them sleep later then 3 p.m or longer then 90 minutes. At this age, they may not nap every day, and that’s okay. In the past 7 days, they took a nap for 6 of them. Bedtime was a little rougher than normal on the day they did not nap, but, overall, we are getting … well.. somewhere.
Problem: Once the girls are in bed, it’s “I need a drink of water,” or “I have to use the potty.”
Solution: The first one is easy, I always bring their water bottles to their bedroom. The second one was driving me nuts! Once one has to potty, the other one has to potty and if I’m tucking them in alone, if I leave the room to take one, the other one would be behind me, or worse, jumping on the bed, turning on the light, or running upstairs. Bedtime just became a huge mess all over again! I try to get them to use the potty before bed, sometimes they do, sometimes they don’t, but now I bring in the training potty that we used when we were potty training. If they have to go once they are in bed, they sit on this little potty, in the dark room, no distractions and no more leaving their bedroom. The majority of the time, they sit on the potty but don’t go. They were just looking for an excuse to leave the room.
Problem: Some nights, keeping two small kids in their beds is nearly impossible. While they run around in the dark, laughing because it’s hysterical, I grab one child, put her back in bed, and the other one jumps out.
Solution: Lock the bedroom door. Seriously. While I am putting one back in bed, the other will bolt for the door and bee-line it upstairs, laughing and screaming. I’m sure you know, kids love rewards and stickers. So, I made a cupcake chart to reward their positive bedtime manners. If you can stay in bed and be quiet during rest time and bed time, you get a sticker. Once you get 10 (it was going to be 20 but thet may take months) you get a cupcake! They both have blankets and dolls that they LOVE to sleep with. If they get out of bed and scream, they get a warning. Next, they lose their cupcake sticker, then a blanket or a doll or something they want to keep in their bed. So far, all of these tactics combined have helped with the bedtime manners.
Problem: I have to stay in their room until they are almost asleep, and the storm is calm, or there will be chaos.
Solution: Unfortunately, I’m still in this stage. I do stay in their room, on the floor, to make sure they stay in bed, are not screaming and not tackling each other. I do leave when they are not completely asleep, but very drowsy. I give them both a kiss, tell them good night, say I love you, and leave the room. I’m hoping with consistency and A LOT of patience, I will be able to leave the room after tucking them in once, but for now, we are hanging in there.
Naps were such a struggle over the past 7 months, that really, we just gave up. We have had a miraculous break though in the past week, where they have napped 6 out of the 7 days. I know they are not going to nap every day, and that’s okay. As long as we are consistent with quiet time, follow the awake hours, and carry on with as much patience as I can muster up at the end of the day, I know things will (hopefully) get easier.
Victory: My girls finally got some Zzzzz’s back!
07/10/2014 9:48 am
I’ve been excited for the girls to turn three because I have wanted to sign them up for gymnastics or dance class. They are old enough to be in a class with just the teacher, and not a mommy and me class, and they are old enough to tell me what they do and do not like, which they happen to be great at!
The mommy and me classes do not always work for a mommy of twins. I could never do the parent and me swim, because I was outnumbered. We tried a parent and me soccer class, but when they knew I was there, one would get clingy and one would get crazy. The mommy and me gymnastics was hard, because while I was helping one, the other one was probably jumping off the highest balance beam she could find. Mommy and me classes typically equaled stress for Mommy.
Finally, they could be in a class, that they picked themselves, and I had the opportunity to sit back, relax, and enjoy watching them do something they love.
We stumbled upon a wonderful facility, Cal Elite Kids, in Rancho Santa Margarita, that offers a variety of programs including dance, gymnastics, swimming, tumbling, preschool and so much more! They also allow you to try your first class for free, which was magnificent!
First we tried gymnastics. My girls are balls of energy, so I was certain this would be the class they would choose. They were in the Tumblebees program, which is a 45-minute class designed for 2.5 to 4 year olds. It was absolutely adorable and I was pretty sure the deal was sealed when they saw the long trampoline they got to run across! But of course, I wanted to give them the opportunity to try the dance class before we made a decision.
So we did a trial class of preschool dance. They were in the Twirly Bees class, another 45-minute class designed for 2.5-4 year olds. The dance class started off with ballet. It was super cute, but I was still sure the trampoline from gymnastics would win their vote. Then, they got to put on tap shoes. Contest over. Dance wins. Shoes, that make music, on the floor? They were over the moon excited. All they want to do is wear their tap shoes now.
We also did a trial class of preschool swimming. The Waterbugs class is a 30-minute class designed for 2.5 to 4 year olds. There is a 4:1 student / teacher ratio in the class. They are introduced to age appropriate skills, that will progressively teach them how to swim.
Cal Elite Kids is fabulous and the prices are definitely competitive which is super important when you’re paying for two! It’s your one stop shop for classes, open gym, and yes, even parent’s night out!
Every Saturday night, parent’s night out is offered for children ages 3 and up, who are fully potty trained. You can drop them off from 5:30 – 9:30 p.m. for $22 per child or 5:30 – 11:30 p.m. for $32 per child! If you haven’t had a night out in a while, here’s your opportunity, and you know your kids will be having a ball while you are gone!
We are so glad we found Cal Elite Kids and look forward to watching our girls faces light up with excitement, every time we walk in their front door!
Cal Elite Kids
22982 Avenida Empresa
Rancho Santa Margarita, CA. 92688
Ph. (949) 589-1512
06/26/2014 9:34 pm
First of all…how is it even possible, that the girls just turned 3? I am completely baffled by that number. It seems like just yesterday I was holding two 5 pound babies in my arms!
Moving on…I think I may have found the ultimate, preschool-aged, birthday party venue!
This past weekend, the girls celebrated their 3rd birthday, with 14 of their friends, at Pump It Up in Lake Forest. The party was private, so the kids had the entire place to themselves for two hours!
What could be better than throwing a fabulous birthday party, at a super fun place to play, where jumping is allowed, screams and giggles are welcome, pictures can be taken for you, it was completely stress-free and best of all, you get to leave the mess behind!
There are several different packages to choose from when booking your party, which can be done online, over the phone, or in person.
We went with the deluxe package for 15 kids, which included access to the exclusive, Pump It Up invitation system (making evites a breeze), 80 minutes of private play (40-minutes in each arena), 2 slices of pizza per child, bottled water for each child (you also have the option of soda or juice), set-up, clean-up, paper goods, party photos, and amazing hosts! All we needed to bring was the cake!
40 minutes in Arena 1:
40 Minutes in Arena 2
40 Minutes in the Party Room
There are several other options you could add to your package if you choose, including additional party food (or you can bring your own approved food and beverages), party experiences (Go Glow!, Pirate Quest, Super Hero Training Quest, Boppin Balloon Bash), goodie bags and more!
Some important things to consider before booking your party, for safety reasons, children under 34″ are not permitted on the inflatables. Everyone who plays on the inflatables, must wear socks. Adults can play too!! In fact, I have had so many parents make the comment, “I’m not sure who had more fun, the kids or adults!” and I couldn’t agree more!
We had such a fun time celebrating the girls’ birthday, that I would highly recommend checking out your nearest Pump It Up, to celebrate your little one’s next birthday bash!
06/22/2014 9:30 pm
I’ve heard a lot of people say that age 2 is hard, but age 3 is harder. Since my girls were about to turn 3, the only sensible thing to do, to make life easier, would be to get a puppy!
Meet (Mama) Mia! She was born in mid-March and is an Australian Shepherd and Terrier Mix.
Okay, now to justify my crazy thinking, for all of you who are laughing right now. I grew up with two dogs, and having those dogs, was a huge part of my childhood, that I will cherish forever. They were part of my family, and I loved them so much!
I wanted the girls to have the same experience, and grow up with a furry best friend. There isn’t a day that goes by (sometimes an hour) that I don’t hear one of them say, “I love Mia so much!” or “She is the best dog ever!”
I’ve been asked, why would you get a dog, when you are still in the potty training phase with twins? Here’s my answer, after the initial phase of potty training, I am so de-sensitized from anything that comes out of a human or animal, I felt like now was a perfect time to potty train a puppy!
When tantrums are thrown or the witching hour is approaching, nothing is like a bigger breath of fresh air, then that adorable ball of fur, always by my side.
We adopted Mia through I.C.A.R.E. Dog Rescue. The entire litter of puppies was dumped off at a dog groomers, and a good friend of mine, was actually the foster Mom for Mama Mia and one of her brothers.
I.C.A.R.E. Dog Rescue is a non-profit, all-breed, no kill dog rescue. They rescue dogs at risk of being euthanized from shelters, as well as abandoned, abused, and stray dogs. They also rescue many dogs that have been surrendered by their owners, for various reasons. They are a 100% volunteer-run and supported organization, that cannot survive without the help of loving fosters, volunteers, and benefactors.
We finally had the chance to meet Mia at an I.C.A.R.E. adoption event, at a PetSmart in Lake Forest. My husband knew, the moment I held Mia in my arms, she was going to be joining our family that night. She is absolutely, the sweetest dog, I have ever met, and we are thrilled to add her as the newest member of our family!
If you wait for the perfect timing, you’ll wait forever. We have talked about getting a dog for quite a while but we never knew when that day would actually come. When we met Mia, at PetSmart, we just knew in our hearts, it was meant to be.
“Mamma mia, here I go again
My my, how can I resist you!”
(Mamma Mia by ABBA Lyrics)
06/06/2014 12:00 pm
Before you clicked on this blog post to read it, you may have read the title and already felt some hostility depending on which side of the “vs.” you are on.
I’ve often been asked, are you happy that you are a stay at home mom? And although there are days, sometimes hours within my days, where I would contemplate running away screaming, begging for the first company, who is hiring, to pick me up, or find myself in a little ball in the corner in tears, the answer is yes, I am happy being a stay-at-home mom.
Although I have been blessed, to own my little company, and work from home, part-time, I often find that there is so much hostility and negative judgment that goes on between the working and non-working mothers.
It’s human nature to feel envious or resentful towards others. Whether you work full-time, part-time, or stay-at-home, motherhood is always going to be synonymous with guilt. I can’t stand the comments and the banter that is made on why one mother is better than the other. It’s like a boxing match of hurtful comments.
If you go to work, it’s for a reason, maybe to pay the bills, maybe to climb the corporate ladder, or maybe even for sanity and just doing something for you. All mothers make sacrifices for their families. Stay-at home moms may be sacrificing a career that they once loved. I hate the perception that stay-at-home moms do nothing all day, or have it easy, or that working moms care more about their careers than their families. These comments are extremely hurtful, and mothers in general need to start being less critical of others. I don’t think life is easy for any mom.
Being a mother, is single-handedly, the hardest thing I have ever had to do. I’ve spent hours in tears, gone through bouts of depression, felt extremely isolated, overwhelmed and unappreciated. I’m sure having two babies at the same time, and no family close by, often intensified the situation, making me feel trapped, because it was just easier to stay home, then go out.
My point is, we are all under pressure to be super mom. We are all trying to do what is best for our families and our children. Not everyone is able to make the decision to stay home or to go to work. Some moms may have made one decision but now wish they could do the opposite.
If you are not physically with your kids, you are worrying about them. Working moms may face the challenge of transitioning to the parenting role when they come home and stay-at-home moms may struggle to break the monotony of day-to-day life, which is the same routine, seven days a week.
I just want to live in a world without all the hate, resentment, negativity, and hostility. We are so quick to judge another mother, whom we barely even know, because she has chosen another path in life, or maybe that path has chosen her.
We are moms. We all have something in common. We all live in guilt. We all wonder if we are doing the right thing, but most importantly, whether we work or stay-home, we will always be super mom in the eyes of our children. I think we can all agree that those are the eyes that matter the most.
Whether you go into the office, or stay home with your kids, we all wear the red cape that says Super Mom. I don’t like being categorized as ”working mom” or “non-working mom,” because those titles bear judgment, which leads to automatic hostility. No matter what you do, when it comes to your family, you will always be… “Mom.”
05/26/2014 2:57 pm
Today, was the day, I ran 13.1 miles as a participant in the 16th Annual Laguna Hills Memorial Day Half Marathon. Wait. Whaaaat? Yah, I know, I’m kind of in disbelief too.
I finished my first half marathon with a time of 2:03:23. I ran strong for the first ten miles, but struggled and had some pain in the final three. When I crossed the finish line, nothing else mattered, I felt like I was on top of the world.
Running my first half marathon was a huge accomplishment, for a girl who used to have an, “I’m only a sprinter, why run further than 400 meters anyway?” attitude.
I have learned a lot about myself since I started running last October.
I’ve learned patience. Patience has never been my best virtue. Okay let’s face it, I am impulsive and when I get an idea, I just want to do it… now…seriously… right now. I joined a run club in mid-October of last year. The purpose of the run club was to train for a 10K in December. What do I do? Sign up for a 10K in November, just to make sure I can do it. I was not ready, not properly trained, and by the end of the race, miserable in a lot of pain…for days! Lesson learned. I trained for 12 weeks for this half marathon. I added mileage to my weekly long run one mile at a time. If I felt pain, I stopped. I listened to my body. The result was finding the patience to run for two hours and cross the finish line with the biggest smile on my face and the biggest sense of accomplishment. I worked hard for this moment.
RUN YOUR OWN RACE
I used to sprint, which means my focus, was only on the finish line, with the hopes of running as fast as possible to beat as many people as I could. When I am running long distance, I have finally accepted that I am in competition with no one but myself. I’m not running to be better than anyone else, besides myself. I just want to be a better person and better runner than I was yesterday. I’ve learned to pace myself. Today, when the gun went off, I knew to pace an easy first mile, because that’s how I had always run in my training. I had swarms of people running by me left and right. I didn’t care. I was in my own world. I was running my own race.
I’ve learned that I need to appreciate and enjoy the days that I just had a great run. Some days, I can run eight miles without a care in the world, and other days, I feel like I’m going to collapse on the ground after just a mile. Me and running don’t always get along, actually, some days running just sucks. As in life, bad days are going to happen. They can be very discouraging, but most of the time, my next run is so much better. I keep telling myself, if it were easy, everyone would do it too. It could be my stubbornness or determination but I’m not going to give up. If I get knocked down, I will get up again (you’re never gonna keep me down).
SET A GOAL
In order for me to stay focused and committed to my training, I have to have a goal that will keep me driven and motivated. My next race is already lined up, theDisneyland Half, in late-August. Since that is three months away, I would not be surprised if a another race pops up on my plate in the near future.
In life, a positive attitude is everything. In the past, I had convinced myself that I would never run a half marathon because I was not capable of achieving that goal. I was a sprinter. My body was not made to run long distance. When in reality, I did not have the patience nor the desire to put in the training, to prove myself wrong. When I go for a run and have a positive attitude, feeling great, and excited to get started, my run is usually awesome. When I go out the door, not really feeling it, my run usually sucks. It’s important to train your brain like your train your body. Today, before my race, I felt excited, focused and determined, and, at least for the first ten miles, had a great run! 90% of your race is your mental state that day. So smile, and be positive and make it a great run!
Although a little sore, I feel great this evening. I feel proud of my accomplishment. After so many years, I finally beat out the little voice in my head that always told me, “You can’t,” and never believed in me. That little voice was a liar. Today, I went the distance, for nobody else except myself.